How to Find a Worthy Life Partner?

Finding someone suitable for a long-term serious relationship and establishing a Jewish family is challenging. A partner with whom you will live through various situations and stories, both joyful and sad. With whom you will share values and views on life, rest and work, dream and age together; a person you will love even after thirty, forty, fifty years.

Choosing a life partner is a matter of great prudence, honesty, and tact. But it is worth it, for when your Jewish other half is by your side, you will truly feel blessed.

Here are a few tips for those seeking Jewish dating and dreaming of strong relationships and a happy marriage.

Are you smiling? But it's truly important. Moreover, it's the simplest way in the world to ensure that you're looking for someone not because you are lonely or uncomfortable with yourself.

If you are unhappy with yourself, you risk starting to date someone inappropriate – that is, someone who will need to fill all the voids and dissatisfactions in your life, but not share your love.

Yes, the partner you enter into a relationship with should complement you, making you feel complete, confident, and overall much better than before. But – and this may be surprising! – even before meeting them, you should already love yourself and be able to enjoy life, be satisfied with who you are, what you do, and how you look.

All this not only makes it easier and smoother to relate to other people but also causes you to seek a relationship with an equally interesting, fulfilled, self-sufficient person. Only with such a partner will your life truly improve.

Let's face the truth: there is little joy in being alone. Especially if all your friends and colleagues have long been in happy relationships or strong marriages. It's absolutely natural to feel sad about not being able to find your Jewish half yet.

But being reasonably happy in solitude is part of self-love. Being interested in life, having hobbies, being inspired by interactions, enjoying new experiences and good acquaintances – this is the highest art that will definitely help you feel better and have patience while waiting for 'your' partner.

Too often, people enter serious relationships simply because someone makes them feel less lonely. Or, let's say, societal pressure mounts: parents worry that their adult offspring are still unmarried ('everyone around is already married', 'the clock is ticking', etc.). Or perhaps you’ve been dating someone for too long – and not getting married after many years of lukewarm relationships would just seem foolish.

But that is far from the truth. You should only get married for one reason: if you truly want to. Not another person, not your Jewish family, not persistent peers – but you. (For certainty, refer to point 4).

It’s rare luck to meet your love at 20+. For most people, it doesn't happen like that: we don't marry our first boyfriend or the cute friend from college. Time and encounters with different people help us learn what is truly important in relationships for us. It is these meetings that teach us about life, offer priceless experience, help us understand how important compromise sometimes is, what works and what doesn’t.

Good experience in previous relationships won’t hurt either. If you've had several partners before you met your loved one, you'll be sure that the chemistry you feel for your partner is truly special. And you'll be even more convinced that your feelings for your future spouse must be genuine. After all, you wouldn’t want to spend the rest of your life pondering what you missed out on, what could have been?

Successful Jewish Dating! May your dreams come true!