Jewish Dating: 30 Original Questions to Help Couples Understand Each Other Better

1) Do you ever rehearse what you're going to say before making a phone call? Why?

2) What do you think are the first two to three traits people notice about you when they meet you for the first time?

3) Can you name the most significant day of your life?

4) If you had freedom from all your commitments for one day, how would you spend it?

5) What can you genuinely say about your life, looking back?

6) What traits in your friends make you want to be near them?

7) Name five things in your current life that bring you the greatest joy.

8) What do you most value about your parents' family?

9) Name two things you love and two things you dislike about Jewish tradition (important that you have experienced these personally).

10) Can you describe your life story interestingly and vividly within one minute?

1) Can you say who the most important people in your life are? What is your relationship with each of them?

2) Describe five facts about yourself that you are truly very proud of.

3) The Jewish family I have always dreamed of is... (you may list 3-5 points that are most important to you).

4) For what in your life have you felt the most gratitude?

5) Is there something you have long dreamed of doing? How could you make it happen?

6) How do you prefer to spend your weekends? Do you observe Shabbat, Jewish traditions, and holiday dates?

7) Are you ready to discuss your own family—relationships with your mother and father, about their parents (your grandparents), and their relationships with each other?

8) What would you like to do but hesitate because of today's social norms and rules?

9) How connected are you to modern technologies? Do you use social media, and how often do you find yourself in virtual reality?

10) Share what you consider the most important positive characteristic of your future Jewish partner (you may name up to five character qualities).

1) What is your natural pace of life, and how does it fit into the society in which you live?

2) What are your thoughts on having/not having children?

3) Name 2-3 things that are troubling you the most today.

4) If you could be born into any other culture, what would you choose? Why?

5) How do you feel about your physical and mental health and your body?

6) Is a healthy lifestyle and proper nutrition important in a Jewish family?

7) What are the 2-3 things you really need from a partner?

8) What does quality of life mean to you? Do you need a partner for whom this matters?

9) Share one of your current financial problems (lack of money for education/dream of traveling more/living in a more expensive area, etc.). Ask your Jewish partner for advice on how they might resolve it. Furthermore, ask them to think about and articulate everything they feel regarding the issue you've chosen.

10) Can you share with your partner an embarrassing money-related incident in your life?

What do you think of these questions? What would you add or remove? Can you imagine something like this on a date?